A Fabulous Man By Jewel Carter

December 18, 2008

What Every Woman should have…if she wants one!
This is my personal salute to all the “real” men out there. We know you exist. You been seen, smelt, heard and felt around the world and it’s high time we pay some homage to you! For those guys that fall a little short of their fabulousness…here’s a list, just check off the qualities as you work your way to your greatness.

There is something sexy about a “real” man. Now I’m not talking about the fictitious characters that have been served up on prime time television. I’m talking about the true, day to day, down for the crown, do-or-die dudes that we see every single day.

It’s difficult for me to put these in any particular order of importance, because the truth is that they are ALL important qualities and every fabulous man that I’ve ever met, had them all (not in equal proportions). This is what I call the “IT” list…

I…is for Integrity. For all the men out there that know who they are, not who they want or anyone else wants them to be. When you know yourself, you are less likely to be easily distracted and lured into situations or relationships that are not for you. Men that possess
Integrity is considered to also be genuine, trustworthy, truthful, fair and loyal. Integrity defined means “the quality of possessing and steadfastly adhering to high moral principles or standards”. It’s knowing the difference between right and wrong…and even when it’s easier to do wrong without reprimand, you do right.
T…is for Temperament. Having total control over your mind and body, what could be sexier than that? A man with true vision is fearless, courageous, supportive, stable and generous of his time and talents. Let me point out my interpretation of the difference between fearless and courageous. They aren’t the same thing. A man can act with courage and still have fear. Fear is the absence of faith. A fearless man never walks, talks or acts alone. He is a protector and provider and has a sense of humor to boot.

There are many fabulous men out there that don’t know it, because they’ve been too busy doing it, to be caught up in the titles. In addition, there have been far too many of us women that do not bother to mention to the men in our lives how fabulous they are. Contrary to popular belief, men love a good compliment too! They like to know that there are women that can identify and appreciate the fabulousness of a real man.

So, thank you to all the guys out there that are doing everything that they can to be all that they can. We don’t need to find our better halves; we need to find our equals. We need to be 100% individually and 200% collectively.

If you have IT…share it with the world (not literally). Mentor other young men and help them understand the difference between boys and men. Explain to them that any male can be a father, but it takes a man to be a dad.

Happy Father’s Day to all the daddies and real men of the world.

No Romance without Finance! By Jewel Carter

December 17, 2008

How to get your finances in order for 2010
If I’ve heard it once I’ve heard it a thousand times… “Money doesn’t buy you happiness… However, it sure does make being miserable a lot more fun!” How is it that some people do and some people don’t? Some can and some can’t. Some will and others won’t? Save money that is. For some it’s an endless cycle. They get caught up in the “if I only made more money”. Then when they get more money… it still isn’t enough.

The problem doesn’t seem to be a lack of money, but a lack of money management. You ever wondered how our grand parents made a lot less money and provided for a lot more children. They all ate three meals a day, had clean clothes, shoes and for the most part, everyone turned out all right. Except maybe your uncle Pookie?!

Of course our ancestors had it a lot easier than us right? There was no QVC or Black Card on the market. If you wanted to hear music in the car everyone would sing a song, if you got lost, you’d pull out the map. Now, we’ve got to have a 12-disc CD changer that goes in the trunk or better yet XM satellite. A GPS system is a must. With every new technology is a bigger price tag and we’ve managed to make more millionaires and billionaires in the history of our world all the while we’re still trying to pay off our student loans from 1982.

Well, I am no financial expert, however, like you; I have access to a wealth of information on the Internet. This is what I have found: There are 113,000,000 sites on Financial Planning, 9,920,000 on Credit Repair, 31,400,000 on Saving Money, 17,900,000 on Investing and 14,300,000 on Creating a Budget.

Check them out and then go back to the article on Setting your Goals. You’ve got to have a plan in order to achieve anything…let’s call it a physical, spiritual or financial road map to help you get from where you are to where you want to be. You can use all the help in the world getting there, but how and if you stay there is determined by your attitudes about money and your ability to make the best choices for you and your family in the short and long term.

As you probably know by now, there are many happy poor people and there are unhappily wealthy folks. You must make the money and not let the money make you. The best part of being financially fit is a lot like being physically fit, it allows you the opportunity to live a healthier and happier lifestyle, filled with unlimited possibilities. It gives you the chance to ask, “What do I want to do?” Instead of “what can I afford to do”?

I hope that I’m not the first to tell you this…there is no one in the world that is more deserving of happiness and financial freedom than you!


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